Saturday, December 27, 2008
I know that a lot of people are praying for our family because I could feel it on Christmas. There were a lot of tears but there was also such a sweetness in the mist of the sadness. Everyone was at their house: the 5 kids, their spouses, 12 grandchildren, and 1 great grandchild. Everyone was together at the same time. With 24 people all in one room, the love and unity that everyone shared was a beautiful gift to experience on Christmas. No one wanted to leave or for the day to end.
My son summed it up on the way home from their house on Christmas:
He said, “Usually when Christmas day is over, I am sad that I am not getting anymore presents. This year, I don’t care about the presents; I must be maturing.”
I told him that I thought PawPaw was helping us all keep Christmas in the right perspective this year and he agreed.
Today (Saturday), the Hospice nurse told us that she did not think that he had very long and it could be any time. Please continue to pray for Steve’s Dad, his mom and our whole family.
Sunday, December 21, 2008
I want to buy the perfect gift for those on my list. I want everyone who opens a gift from me to love it, even though I have some hard-to-please-people on my list.
I want my kids to have the “best Christmas ever” every year.
I want all the food that I make on Christmas to melt in your mouth.
I want to send out Christmas cards with the perfect picture and poem that cause the recipients to reflect on the meaning of Christmas.
I want my house to look perfectly festive. I want every light to shine on my tree and every present to be perfectly wrapped (no Christmas bags).
I want a CLEAN house on Christmas morning.
Every year I really attempt to meet all those goals. The problem is that in trying to have the perfect Christmas, I usually end up driving those around me crazy. By the time Christmas rolls around, I am a stressed out, sleep deprived, overextended ball of nerves. Isn’t it ironic? In an attempt to give my family the best, they end up getting the worst side of me.
Why do I feel that my Christmas needs to be perfect? Was the original day that we celebrate a perfect one for those involved? Was Jesus born in a perfectly decorated place? No. He was born in a stable because there was “no room” for him in the inn. If Jesus’ surroundings were not perfect on that day, why do I feel mine should be? In my quest for the perfect Christmas, I lose focus. I focus on the petty things and leave “no room” for Jesus in the celebration of His day.
I want things to be perfect, but that is not what the Lord requires from us. What does the Lord want? In Micah 6:8, He tells us: “He has told you, O man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you But to do justice, to love kindness, And to walk humbly with your God?”
That is why I want a different Christmas this year. I am wishing this year for an “unperfect” Christmas, and I am wishing one for you too. I’ll bet you have never received that wish in a Christmas card before. When my house ends up looking more like a stable than Martha Stewart’s home; when I burn Christmas breakfast for the third year in a row; when my kids ask, “Is this alllll you got me for Christmas?”; when those on my Christmas list ask for the receipt to return that perfect gift; and when I feel guilt for not sending out Christmas cards; I want those times to help me remember the real meaning of Christmas.
This year, let the imperfect events of the day draw your attention to the reason we celebrate. I am wishing that you and I both share love with others this Christmas. I hope you take the time to sit down in the middle of all the rush of the day and enjoy the time with your family and friends. I feel a real urgency to slow down this Christmas and enjoy the day. Steve’s dad is very sick this Christmas. He has bone tumors that are causing him a tremendous amount of pain. I don’t want to rush past this special day with him. I don’t know what the future holds; it may be his last Christmas. It could be the last Christmas for any of us. Think about your loved ones who have passed away. When you celebrated that last Christmas with them, did you realize that it was their last Christmas on Earth? I never realized that the last Christmas that I had with my family members who have died would be our last. All their deaths came unexpectedly. How different those Christmases would have been if I had known. How different the focus and moments shared would have been. This Christmas, my prayer for you is that you ignore the stress, family annoyances, and rushing around to sit down and share His love. Please pray the same for my family.
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
This hope we have as an anchor of the soul, a hope both sure and steadfast and one which enters within the veil, where Jesus has entered as a forerunner for us, having become a high priest forever according to the order of Melchizedek.
As I read the word anchor, I could not help but think about a boating trip I took when I was 21. While Steve and I were dating, he called and asked if I could come to his house. I got to his house later than planned, and he told me we had to hurry to get down to my parents’ place on Lay Lake. I remember him driving like a madman. For some reason, he was worried about getting down to the lake before dark and a coming thunderstorm. When we arrived, he almost ran to the boat. As he was starting the engine, he told me to jump in. Being the logical person that I am, I did not think we should go out in the boat when rain was on the way and I could see lightning in the distance. No one wants to be on a big aluminum pontoon boat in the middle of a thunderstorm. He told me to trust him and get in the boat. Against my better judgment, I got in. He pulled the boat out about 50 yards into the lake and stopped. I figured that he must have come to his senses and we were turning back. Then he walked back to where I was sitting, got down on one knee, proposed, and put a ring on my finger! His plan had been to go out on the boat and propose to me at sunset. My lateness and the coming thunderstorm put a kink in his plan, but my answer was still the same!
He quickly brought the boat back to shore, and we ran inside to call everyone and tell them the good news. In all our excitement, we forgot one very important thing: we forgot to tie up (anchor) the boat to the pier. When we went back outside, the boat had started to float off.
I have never really thought about the symbolism of that event until today. On that day, we were so caught up in the moment that we forgot about anchoring our boat. During our marriage, we have many times been so caught up in the events of our lives that we forgot about our anchor, Jesus. Unlike during our engagement night, we are always tied to this anchor, and He will not allow us to drift too far. We have drifted at times, but thank you, Jesus, you won’t let us go too far because the ANCHOR HOLDS!
I guess the weather that night could have also been a foreshadowing of things to come. Instead of the peaceful sunset proposal that Steve was planning, the background was lightning bolts coming down in the distance. The last fifteen years have not always been smooth sailing; many different storms have come. Sometimes the storms just seemed too big. I was afraid we would sink, but the anchor holds in spite of the storm! Praise God!
Here is a great video of the song The Anchor Holds by an unknown singer on YouTube. It speaks to many of the different storms we face in our lives. Please watch the video and let the message touch you. Use it as a time to pray for those you know who are going through storms.
Friday, October 31, 2008
-My child will eat healthy, i.e., no McDonald’s junk food,
-My child will never have a pacifier,
-I will never allow my child to throw a huge temper tantrum in public, and
-I will sew all my child’s Halloween costumes
Now that I actually have children, McDonalds has turned into our second home; I feared that my child would start preschool with a pacifier; and we hold the record for the biggest tantrum in the history of the Riverchase Galleria. Therefore, I decided that I needed to sew a Halloween costume in order to avoid breaking all of my early parenting rules.
I also had an ulterior-motive for sewing a costume: the church fall festival costume contest. Have I mentioned that I am a very competitive person? Overly competitive people and costume contests usually do not mix well. But, if you are going to lose hours of sleep working on a costume, you might as well win, right?
I set my sights on making a monkey costume for my then three year old child. This costume was ultimately much harder and more time consuming than I could ever imagine. A veteran seamstress could have sewed all of the dresses in a large wedding party in the same amount of time that I needed to make this costume. However, I thought the time and effort would be worth it. If I won, I would taste the victory of feeling like the “Crafty Mom.” In the future, when I forgot to send lunch money or missed one of my child’s dentist appointments, I could think back to the Great Monkey Costume of 2000 and not feel like such a terrible mother.
As the contest started, my heart was beating hard. Even though Joshua refused to do the monkey head scratch or screech out “Eh, Eh, Ah, Ah, Oh!” like we practiced, he did a wonderful job. I also pulled out a secret weapon: bananas. My monkey had real bananas to carry in the contest. I bet that no other contestant would be carrying his own food source.
However, I have to admit that I was worried. When I arrived at the carnival, several people thought he was a cat instead of a monkey. This made my confidence waiver a little bit. Hello- does a cat carry bananas?!?! Several costumes in the contest appeared to be much better than mine, but my monkey had the biggest blue eyes and cutest red hair that you have ever seen. Who could resist a blue-eyed, red-headed monkey?
It came time to announce the winner. I was about to join a long list of esteemed Halloween crafters.
I held my breath as the judge said, “And the winner is……..
Everyone?!?! Surely, I did not hear that correctly.
Then the judge said the words that I will never forget, “All the costumes were so good, you are all winners.”
PU-LEASE! All winners? You have got to be kidding me.
I even had scripture to back up my disappointment.
1 Corinthians 9:24 (NAS) says, “Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize?”
“Only one receives the prize” was the portion of scripture that I quoted to the judge in order to convict him of his decision.
However, looking back on that section of Scripture years later, I realize that I was not looking at the real meaing of the passage. Reading 1 Corinthians 9:24 and 25 together reveals a different meaning than I orignally thought. The passage reads as follows:
“Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win. Everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things. They then do it to receive a perishable wreath but we an imperishable.”
I now realize that this verse is talking about an imperishable prize, certainly not winning the costume contest. I used the verse out of context when I quoted it to justify my disappointment in not being crowned “Crafty Mom of the Fall Festival.”
What kind of imperishable prize could you ever receive at a fall festival? As I think back to past fall festivals, I realize that I did receive a wonderful gift from a fall festival that is so much better than any contest prize. Several years ago, I ran into a childhood friend and his family at our church’s fall festival. I had not seen him in years. We talked a while, and I was very excited that he seemed interested in visiting our church. A week later, our church was sending out Faith Teams (a church visitation program) to visit the people who attended our fall festival and indicated that they did not have a church home. When I received my assignment of homes to visit, I discovered that I was assigned to visit my childhood friend. I was nervous as I traveled to his house. He knew the “old” Kelly. He knew me way before I was a Christian. What would he think of my visit?
Thankfully, the visit was wonderful. I asked him about his thoughts on how a person can go to Heaven. He indicated that he had been saved a few years earlier. What wonderful news! What a wonderful blessing to hear!
Two years ago, my friend died unexpectedly. As I sat at his funeral, I could not believe that I was at his funeral. The world had lost one amazing son, dad, brother and friend. I was heartbroken for his parents and children. At the same time, I was so thankful that I had the opportunity to talk to him about his relationship with the Lord. I know for sure that I will see him again one day in heaven.
I am so thankful for the imperishable blessings that the Lord brings into our lives. Why do we strive so hard for things on this earth that will not last? For example, the prize for the costume contest was a bag of candy. If I had won, that bag would have lasted five minutes at the most. I have to remind myself continually that we can not take things to heaven with us; we can only take other people. On this October 31st, please remember that candy and costumes will not last; however, people and our relationship with the Lord can be eternal. I pray that you will use this Halloween and the days ahead to show His love in real and imperishable ways.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
I posted a comment along with 2,116 other women.
In the process (of losing a baby shortly after birth), I have met many, many
women who have lost their sons and daughters, and I have been praying about ways
to make this blog about them as well as Audrey. Last week, the Lord spoke to me,
and I was inspired to do this...
If you have lost a baby (and yes, I consider a miscarriage in ANY week to be the loss of a life) to infant death or miscarriage, I want the honor of praying for you. But I want others to be able to pray for you as well, the way they have for me. So, if you are one of those women, will you please leave a comment on this post ..
In honor of the child we lost, I would like to share my story with you.
In 1993, we were newly weds. We had just started going to church at Calera Baptist. I had never been active in church before, and I was excited to have my own church home. Steve was the exact opposite. He had grown up in church but had gotten away during his teen years. He went through many years of rebellion with church being the last thing on his mind. As Calera is such a small town, he was very uncomfortable going back to church and felt like everyone knew everything he had ever done. Sunday mornings usually ended up being a debate to decide whether we should go to church or go fishing. A lot of the time, fishing would win. Occasionally, he would go to Sunday school, but he looked like a two-by-four sitting in the class—stiff as a board.
The week of our one-year anniversary, I found out I was pregnant. We were overjoyed and scared to death at the same time. Everything was going great with the pregnancy until I went for a routine doctor’s appointment when I was around 15 weeks along. They could not find the baby’s heart beat and sent me for an ultrasound. The ultrasound showed the baby had died.
The baby’s death really knocked my spiritual legs right out from under me. I read my Bible, went to church, and served Him. How could God allow this to happen? I was a baby Christian, and even though I knew the Lord, I knew very little about His character. Like so many people in today’s time, I bought into “prosperity thinking,” which says that if you serve God, He will bless you and your life will be filled only with health, wealth, prosperity, and happiness. Yes, I had a lot to learn.
During this time, someone gave me a book on Christian grieving. It said that the final stage of grieving was to be able to thank the Lord for the event that happened. The book made me furious. I literally threw it across the room. That was the dumbest thing that I had ever heard. I found it preposterous that one day I would thank God for this terrible event. One night, I was sitting on the couch ranting to Steve about how unfair God was. I had come to the conclusion that my husband was right—we should have been fishing on Sunday mornings. I will never forget what happened next. He quoted a Bible verse to me. I wish I could remember the verse, but I was in such shock that he knew a verse that I have no idea which one it was. That was the first time I had ever heard him say anything spiritual. What made the difference?
The church displaying the love and compassion of Christ.
I can’t explain to you in words the amazing love our church showed us. Our Sunday school class was a real-life example of being Jesus’ hands and feet. They showed us love in so many ways. This profoundly affected Steve. He realized that no one cared about his past. The church just wanted to love us. And love us they did. Our lives were forever changed by the love shown to us from the body of Christ.
To my sweet baby that I never was able to hold:
Even though you did not get to look into the eyes of a mom and dad who love you so much, I hope you know the impact your life had on our lives. I believe your life helped to change the path of our family. You helped bring us closer to the Lord and our church family.
It is so comforting for me to know that when you left my womb, you opened your eyes for the first time in the perfect place of heaven in the presence of Jesus. You will never have to know the pain and sadness of living in a fallen world. You are a reminder to me that this world is not my home. One day we will be able to look into your eyes, and you will meet your brothers. The time we were apart will seem so small in light of the eternity that we will have together celebrating our Lord and Savior.
I love you more than words can say.
Jeremiah 1:5a - Before I formed you in the womb I knew you..
Friday, October 10, 2008
Philippians 3:20-21: For our citizenship is in heaven, from which also we eagerly wait for a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ ; who will transform the body of our humble state into conformity with the body of His glory, by the exertion of the power that He had even to subject all things to Himself.
While cooking chili last weekend, one of my children came into the kitchen and commented on how good the chili smelled. I agreed with him; nothing smells better on a cool fall day than chili. This smell led him to an interesting question, “Mom, what do you think Heaven will smell like?” I did not know what to say. I had never thought about the smell of Heaven or if we will have a sense of smell in Heaven. I told him that I thought it might smell fresh; fresh like after it rains. He asked if I thought it would smell like chili. I explained to him that I don’t think Heaven would smell like chili since a lot of people don’t like chili. If you were not a fan of chili, you would not want to spend eternity smelling it. He said that several years ago in children’s choir they talked about Heaven being so wonderful and so much more than you could ever imagine that it would contain new colors that you had never seen before. He reasoned that if our eyes would see new colors then he could smell chili in Heaven. I honestly don’t know. What is your opinion?
I did what I always do when I am faced with a question that I don’t know the answer and can’t find it in the Bible- I goggled it. Obviously, you get some pretty strange matches for a Google search on “Will we smell in heaven?”. You have to examine your sources carefully. Luckily, I came upon a match to my search that contained an excerpt from Randy Alcorn’s book Heaven. Here is Randy Alcorn’s opinion:
God designed us with five senses. They’re part of what makes us human. Our resurrection bodies will surely have these senses. I expect they will increase in their power and sensitivity. We’ll stand on the New Earth and see it, feel it, smell it, taste its fruits and hear its sounds. Not figuratively. Literally. We know this because we’re promised resurrection bodies like Christ’s. He saw and heard and felt and, as he cooked and ate fish, he presumably smelled and tasted it. We will too.
I am thankful for a child that helped me to stop today and reflect on the “realness” of Heaven. What’s your opinion? What are your favorite smells that you hope to smell in heaven?
Friday, October 3, 2008
The noise comes out of my mouth before I can contain it. Usually at the same exact time, I throw my left arm out like I am trying to hold back an imaginary child that is riding between us.
One reason that my gasping gets on his nerves is because he does not see any threat of danger. To me this is a very strange phenomenon. How can two people riding it the same car see the same event so differently. How can I think that the car that pulled out in front of us may be my ticket to go see Jesus and it does not concern him at all?
A Gary Smalley marriage video answered that question for me. The answer is depth perception. Men and women have different depth perception. According to Gary Smalley, women can’t judge distance and space as well as men. Undoubtedly, we are really not inches from the car in front of us; it just looks that way to me.
I don’t know why God would have given men and women varying degrees of depth perceptions (please comment to this blog if you have any ideas). I do know that there is one thing that the Lord wants both men and women to be able to correctly judge. That is his love:
I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love may have power together with all the saints to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge- that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
I have heard this verse many many times. But Monday when I was reading Ephesians 3, it struck me for the first time that he wants us to be able to measure the love he has for us. To measure something, you have to really look at it. That is what the Lord wants us to do with him. He wants us to really examine and know Him and his character.
Are you having depth perception problems in realizing the great love of God? Some days, we tend to look at our circumstances to gage God’s love for us. I know that in my life when I have looked at circumstances to measure God’s love for me, I have greatly underestimated His love and at times doubted his love. We would all have a much better grasp on understanding His love if we stop trying to measure the things around us and start measuring Him.
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
In one particular episode, the mother gives her teen a brand new Lexus (cost $67,000) the day BEFORE her 15th (not 16th) birthday party. The word BEFORE is very important. According to the daughter, this act ruined her life. She wanted to receive the car during the party. How could her mother love her and do such a terribly mean thing to her?
Another clip on YouTube shows a girl having a complete melt down when she receives her brand new Saab convertible. She wanted a blue convertible but she received a red one. Now she is stuck with a car that does not coordinate with her wardrobe. How could her father be so uncaring?
As I see these clips, I am shocked. How could anyone be so spoiled? How could these teens be so inconsiderate and thankless? The parents gave the girls everything they wanted. Just because it did not come EXACTLY like they wanted, they threw a fit.
As I started reading through the book of Ephesians on Sunday, I came to the shocking realization that I am not much different from the teens. As I read through Ephesians 1:3, I realize how spoiled I am.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ.
God has given me EVERY spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ. I have it all. But some days, it does not come EXACTLY as I want it. I want a blue car instead of red. I want the timing of things to be different. Some days, I can throw a pretty good fit.
A good cure for a spoiled attitude is to look at the entire chapter of Ephesians 1. Ephesians 1 is an interesting chapter. After the greeting, the entire chapter was originally made up of only two very long sentences. Modern translations have added addition punctuation. Verse 3-verse 14 is a long sentence composed of Paul’s praise and verse 15-23 is composed of Paul’s praise and prayer. When you read this chapter as two long sentences you come to realize how full Paul was with joy and excitement. He had to praise and pray- no time to stop for periods, commas or capital letters. It is hard for me to imagine these wonderful praises were coming from the mind of a man locked in prison.
Have you been acting like a spoiled brat lately? Please join with me in praying that when the “it’s all about me” attitude creeps in, we turn our eyes from ourselves to our creator in praise and prayer.
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Anyone who lived in the 80s remembers Wendy's "Where's the Beef?" commericals. Wendy's implied in these commercials that the competition was cheating you by selling tiny burgers on a "big fluffy bun". Lately, my spiritual life has looked a lot like the competitor's burger- a tiny shriveled hamburger on a great big bun with a lot of fluff and not much meat. I have really gotten tired of eating these small burgers on a tasteless bun. I settled and ate these burgers for so long that I lost my appetite. Why have I been settling? I found my answer in Hebrews 5:
Hebrews 5:13-14 KJV- For every one that useth milk is unskilful in the word of righteousness: for he is a babe. But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.
In this passage, the writer of Hebrews is warning the people because they have not grown in their faith. He tells them that by this time you should be teachers but you are still infants drinking milk. I like the NASB translation of verse 14:
Solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil.
That explains it! The reason that I have been settling for tiny burgers filled with all kinds of disgusting fillers is that I have not been training myself in CONSTANT USE of the Word. My Bible study has been very hit and miss for the last year. No consistency. I had lost my appetite for the Word. Thankfully in a Ladies Bible Study a few weeks ago, our teacher said that if you have lost your desire for the Word, go back to the basics and ask Him for a desire for His Word. I did and he really answered that prayer by leading me to a wonderful Bible study tool at www.crosswalk.com. Through this website you can read through the Bible, view passages in different version, save notes on verses and access Bible commentaries on each verse. This website has allowed me to really dig deep into the meat of the Bible. My appetite is back!
How about you? Are you tired of buying the competition's small scrawny burger? Is your Christian life mostly a big empty fluffy bun? I want to challenge you to join with me in an "eating challenge"(sure beats a fitness challenge). Join with me in answering the question "Where's the Beef?". Let go on a search of the real deal- 100% pure meat of God's word.
As with any challenge, you need accountability. Since this is my first time to blog, I need some blogging friends that will join with me and hold me accountible. If you are not currently reading your Bible consistently, please join with me in reading through the bible in a year. I love the idea of a group of people reading through a Bible passage and sharing the "meaty bites" that God is speaking to you. Even if you are doing a different daily Bible study, please comment to this site and give others insight and encouragement into your search for "Where's the "Beef?".
Here's the info for Crosswalk:
Select Resource (left of page, 2nd column)
Bible Study Tools
Create an Account Now (left of page)
Under "My Preference", select start date of January 1
Reading Plan Option- Half Old Testament/Half New Testament
Then everyday, log in and select the "Bible in a Year" tab from the top of your page
Here's the reading plan for the rest of September:
271 Sep 27 Isaiah 13-15; Galatians 6
272 Sep 28 Isaiah 16-18; Ephesians 1
273 Sep 29 Isaiah 19-21; Ephesians 2
274 Sep 30 Isaiah 22-23; Ephesians 3